What you need to know prior to writing your book.

Writing a book will be one of the most fulfilling endeavours you undertake within your lifetime.

If HAPPFUL caught your eye, I am guessing you have been toying with the idea for possibly 5, 10, even 15 years or more. In fact, over 85% of people say they would like to write a book in their lifetime, though fewer than 8% are able to achieve this goal.

Many first time authors will start, become lost as confusion and frustration mounts, then give up on their dreams. The good news is, writing a book is indeed a possibility for anyone who has a passion to share their story, when paired with an appropriate framework. This blog is designed to set you on the path to writing success.

Included below are the three most important concepts that first time authors need to internalize before starting their book-writing journey. By following this advice, you too will be well on your way to becoming an author.

1. Establish the purpose behind your writing

The purpose of your book can be thought of as a one sentence summary of what a reader can expect.

Will your readers put your book down and have a full understanding of the ups, downs, and roundabouts of your life story? Or, will they learn how to have a rich marriage that lasts a lifetime?

What message do you want to leave as your legacy?

The more focused you are around your purpose or central theme, the easier it will become to complete your book. When you are having difficulty deciding whether to include a story or not, you can simply reflect back on your purpose and ask yourself if the story contributes to moving the book forward? Or is it a story better left telling at Thanksgiving?

Take time now to grab a piece of paper and write down your purpose.

2. Establish the key messages within your book

Once you have your purpose set, it’s time to start exploring the key themes beneath your purpose.

Use some of the key themes below to help you flesh out the core content you want to include within your book. Take your time with this activity. Jot down your ideas immediately below your written purpose. Don’t worry about writing full sentences at this time, it’s your ideas that matter. Come back to this list over the next week or so and add stories as they pop into your mind.

Life events: Look back over your years. What are the most memorable events in your life?

Key turning points: Did you have any defining realization in your life when things really started to click?

Life lessons: What lessons did you have to learn the hard way? Jot down the key lessons you have learned. The good, the bad, and the ugly. 😊

Observations: Some of our most existential learnings take place while observing the world around us. What high-level observations do you have of your life? The world? The lives of others.

Life mottos: Do you have any life-guiding principles or mottos? These are the hakuna matatas of the world (from the Lion King). Another is the golden rule: "Do to others what you want them to do to you.” What are your life mottos?

After mapping out these key messages, re-examine your purpose to make sure it is still in line with all you want to share. If you find your purpose has slightly changed after listing out your life events, that is ok. It is natural for your purpose to evolve and become stronger with every day you spend working on your book.

Once you have your key messages outlined, it is then time to dive into each message further. Expand on these key points by adding short form bullets for each one of the points below.

·        The 5 W’s: Ask yourself “Who” contributed to your story? “What” makes it so meaningful? “When” did this happen in your life? “Where” were you? “Why” do you care so deeply about it?

·        Learnings: What did you learn from each one of these key messages? What can others learn?

·        Anecdotes: Do you have a certain story from your past that would help you expand on the key learnings?

You should now have a full page (or more) of ideas, giving you a high level framework of your entire book. It is now time to start writing and breathing life into your story.

3. Key pitfalls

There is no book if words are not written. That said, there are times when authors struggle. Let’s address a couple of them.

Writing too early: Writing should begin after you have put together a plan for what you are going to write on, and in what sequence.

Getting caught up in perfection: The first draft of any writing will often resemble a pile of steaming dung. Nevertheless, it is important that you get your thoughts down onto paper, even if you feel the quality of writing is low. You will have many opportunities to edit your writing further down the road.

Not seeking help: Writing a book is a large undertaking that can easily become overwhelming. Seek out a writing coach to help you shape your words into a meaningful story (we can help!).


Writing a book can be rated up there as being one of the most meaningful pieces of your legacy. A book is your opportunity to give eternal life to the immaterial, educating and inspiring readers for years. If you follow the structure outlined above, I am confident that you will be on your way to authoring a book.  

If writing a book is one of your goals, I want you to email me personally at calvin@happful.com and mention that you found this blog post on our site. We are currently not accepting new authors but if you reach out to me I will happily hop on the phone with you to point you in the right direction.

Calvin Simpson